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You’re a Bridesmaid. What’s Next?

My friend/sister Monica got married last month and it was my first time being a bridesmaid. I honestly didn’t know what to expect, and I know a lot of you my #Littlefinders might be in the same boat. I am here to give you all the info you need to make sure you, the bride and the rest of the maids have a hell of a good time, through the whole process. Sit back, relax and check out all the do’s and don’ts of being in a wedding party.

– Say Yes! – Chances are, you will get a special proposal to be part of the wedding party, and the bride probably has put a lot of time and thought into your surprise. You were chosen because you are special to that person, so accept the offer. If you have any special concerns you can talk to the bride about them on a different day.

-Start putting money aside: Being a bridesmaid does cost money. Hopefully, you will be lucky like me and your friend didn’t pick an over the top expensive dress or hair/makeup vendors. But you will have to spend money on the dress, hair or makeup, bachelorette party, shoes and other expenses. I started saving a year in advance by putting a little bit of money aside each month, so It didn’t feel like a huge expense all at once.

– Create a chat with the other bridesmaids: Most likely the Maid of Honor will take care of this, but make sure you participate. ANSWER HER IF SHE ASKS QUESTIONS OR SUGGESTIONS. Start bonding with the other ladies. This will make your experience so much more fun for all the events that will follow.

– Communicate with the Maid of Honor: I will be honest, I am super scattered brain and forget everything. Chances are the bride is under a lot of stress, so don’t go to her for all the small details ( I might have made this mistake a few times :O) but rather rely on the Maid of Honor or other bridesmaids for questions.

– Are you are tight on money and don’t know what to do?: This is the time to talk to the bride. But do it in advance, you might not be able to attend the bachelorette party, or pay to get your hair done. Maybe you can’t afford to be in the wedding at all. Life happens, your friend choose you because she loves you, most of the time something can be figured out, and some of the other bridesmaids might even be willing to help as well. The key here is SPEAK UP IN ADVANCE.

-It is not about you: Let’s be honest, you might hate the dress, the hair or the makeup. I was lucky enough that I loved everything, but at the end of the day if you love your friend you will wear a plastic bag for her wedding. Be flexible and open-minded on all the decisions Hopefully one day it will be your turn, and your bridesmaids will do whatever it takes to make you happy 🙂 (27 dresses anyone?)

– Have fun and enjoy the experience: Trust me the day of the wedding none of the tiny details will matter. My heart was so full seen the bride, the groom, and all the details come together that I could care less what I was wearing, or what my hair looked like. I was lucky to have a great group of bridesmaids too! But really, don’t sweat the small stuff and have a blast!

Have you been a bridesmaid before? Any advice? I would love to hear your thoughts!

Until Next Time Littlefinders!








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The book that will change your life – The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

Hello my Littlefinders! I hope you are ready to take this week by the horns and make the best of it! To be completely transparent with you, I have always been a person who gets tons of anxiety on Sunday nights. I worry about every possible scenario that can happen in life, however, I  recently made a commitment to changing my way of thinking. I want to live life to the fullest with zero regrets. There’s a book I recently read that changed my life. “The four agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. In this post, I’m going to break down the basics of this book, and hopefully, you will go and read it yourself. I have recemmended tons of things through my blog, but if anything, let this be the product you go purchase!

The idea of the four agreements comes from the ancient Toltec wisdom, and overall offers a powerful code of conduct that can transform every aspect of your life, it takes effort but if you follow these steps every day, your whole perspective on living life will change!


The Agreements:

“Be impeccable with your words” –  This ultimately means you attract what you speak. Focus on positive words. If you want to accomplish something say it out loud, and don’t give power to the negative thoughts or words. If you want that promotion don’t tell yourself “I’m never going to get it”, “I’m not smart enough”. This will only attract negative energy. Pretty much apply the saying “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”


“Don’t take anything personally” –  I know!  easier said than done. But really apply the “in one ear out the other” saying. The book goes a lot deeper into what this means. This agreement applies not only when people say something negative to you, but also something positive. The idea is to bring your confidence so high that other people’s opinions aren’t really important. I have been practicing this agreement the most, and I have seen a huge change in how things affect me. Give it a try.


“Don’t make assumptions” – Think about it, 90 percent of the scenarios we create in our minds probably have not happened nor will they happen. You know, that time when you thought your best friend was mad at you because she or he has not called in a week? Or maybe the time your boss looked upset and you thought you did something wrong?  STOP ASSUMING!  If something is REALLY bothering you, just ask! Most of the time “is not personal” and someone is probably not mad at you.


“Always do your best” – We hear this phrase from the time we are young, but the book really explains this phrase from a different perspective. This agreement ties all of the agreements together, to help you have your best life yet. The best way to put is “Always do your best within your capabilities” focus on the small wins. For example, if you had a tough day at work or an argument with someone, and you hit a cycling class after do the best you can, but know it’s ok to not be number one.  Actually is ok if you don’t even attend the class that day. Give yourself a break and tomorrow will be a better day!

This is just a little glimpse of what The Four Agreements covers. I highly recommend you read this book, it’s a quick read, but it will completely change your perspective on life. You can purchase it here. I would love to hear your thoughts about it

Until Next time Littlefinders!